Addictions

Daydreaming

February 9, 2012
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Daydreaming can turn into an addiction

As a little girl, I used to spend hours daydreaming. Then I just naturally carried on into adulthood. I dreamed about the boy I was in love with, and how he would just adore me someday. I dreamed about the wonderful career I would have, and how everybody would (oh so much) admire me.I dreamed about how fit and beautiful I would be. I was spending several hours a day daydreaming. I have no idea if this is unusual or not, because nobody talks about it. But I eventually grew tired of it. Two things happened. First, I started...

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5 signs of Relationship Addiction

January 30, 2012
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Love addiction

Relationship addiction is mighty obvious when someone you know is caught in it, but is difficult to spot or explain when you are in the middle of it - as usual, we have unlimited wisdom available as long as it is not about us. I had a look on the web to see how other folks define relationship addictions. It seems like there are as many definitions and nuances as shrinks on earth: codependent love addicts, relationship addicts, ambivalent love addicts, torch bearers, narcissistic love addicts, codependents, the list goes on. My definition is simpler, and it’s the same as for any other addiction:...

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Three signs you need therapy

January 14, 2012
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One day a friend of mine, let’s call him Dave,  initiated a discussion around the decision to get into therapy. Dave  knew I was seeing a therapist, and he was trying to understand if he needed to go. I knew Dave well, and for a long time. My (silent) thinking went like this: “Of course you need therapy, probably lots of it. I don’t even understand how you can ask yourself this question”.  I did not find it wise to voice my thoughts though. What I told him instead was to look for any sign of the dark triad in his...

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