Posts Tagged ‘ Awareness ’

How to be present in your life

January 22, 2012
By
Frontal zen balace

I’m currently reading Finding Your Way in a Wild New World, the latest book from Martha Beck. The author explains how most of us are litterally trapped in our head. We tell endless stories about ourselves, others, and the world, in the privacy of our own mind. Sometimes, these stories are not even true. We are very far from reality, stuck in a dream (or a nightmare). Sometimes, we are closer to the truth, but while we are busy obsessing about how awful a particular incident was (or how unfair, or whatever), we don’t even see the amazing event...

Read more »

Emotions are your best friends

January 19, 2012
By
Japonais

For a long time, I could not understand why I should be more connected to my emotions. I really had too much of these already. My emotions were mistreating me. Emotions were only causing problems in my life. I missed trains and planes because of panic. Often in relationships I was awkward to the point of looking silly, because I was overcome by anxiety. My loving feelings were invariably taking me to someone who would either ignore me or treat me badly (I could then wallow in useless despair). I was easily feeling ridiculous or stupid, overwhelmed by shame. My emotions we so...

Read more »

Who are you, Dr Jekyll ?

January 16, 2012
By
Mask

  My first encounter with the idea of a social self, in a way I could comprehend at least, took place while reading Finding Your Own North Star: Claiming the Life You Were Meant to Live, from Martha Beck.  It hit me like a revelation. So this was the part of me who was always agreeing to everything,  who was writing endless to-do lists, who was desperately trying to conform to whatever was expected from me, who hated disagreements and conflicts. Nice to meet you social self, my name is Lauren, what the hell are you doing in my head? ...

Read more »

The power of denial

January 12, 2012
By

I met Liz when I was attending university. We were going to the same courses and living in the same building. We both ended up elected at the board of students and did a lot of work there together. So naturally, we became close friends. This friendship has lasted ever since, over the course of twenty years and innumerable moves for us both – between the two of us, we lived in 9 different countries. When I met her, she came across as a very sweet person, never expressing anger. She was describing herself as easy-going and lacking assertiveness....

Read more »

Archives

Tags

Addictions Anger Anxiety Awareness Body Books Boundaries Character Disorders Children Codependency Depression Dreaming Emotions Family Feelings Gratitude Love Addiction Neurosis Our past Parenting Projection Recovery Relationship Addiction Relationships Responsibility Self Esteem self esteem; self help Self Help Shame Therapy Trauma