Posts Tagged ‘ Codependency ’

5 signs of Relationship Addiction

January 30, 2012
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Love addiction

Relationship addiction is mighty obvious when someone you know is caught in it, but is difficult to spot or explain when you are in the middle of it - as usual, we have unlimited wisdom available as long as it is not about us. I had a look on the web to see how other folks define relationship addictions. It seems like there are as many definitions and nuances as shrinks on earth: codependent love addicts, relationship addicts, ambivalent love addicts, torch bearers, narcissistic love addicts, codependents, the list goes on. My definition is simpler, and it’s the same as for any other addiction:...

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Declare your emotional independence

January 10, 2012
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“Really, what would you do without me!!”, he said jokingly after fixing something in the house. Usually, I would have rolled my eyes and answer ” you know, I probably would be a bag lady by now!”. And we would have laughed at the apparent silliness of this conversation. Such a great relationship, such a sense of humor. Ha ha. This time, to my horror, I understood he meant it. This man was convinced I would have difficulties organizing my life without him. I thought about the fact that we were both working full-time and contributing the same amount to the...

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The New Codependency – Melody Beattie

January 8, 2012
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I have always been a fan of Melody Beattie’s work, and I have benefited enormously from it  since the old days of Codependent No More. I don’t understand why I bought the book in the first place; it seemed to be tackling the issues of people who were involved with addicts. God knows I had issues of my own, but not this one: I have never fallen in love with someone addicted. I  nevertheless recognized myself in the description of the  Codependent. There were so many similarities: not being able to take care of myself, obsessing about other people, taking care of everyone’s needs...

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