Posts Tagged ‘ Self Esteem ’

Healing the shame that binds you

January 28, 2012
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Healing the shame that binds you

Healing the Shame that Binds You, from John Bradshaw, is considered a recovery classic with good reason. It’s a powerful book, one that can really help you in your journey towards emotional health. Unhealthy shame, as Bradshaw defines it, is basically thinking you are flawed and defective as a human being. Nothing you can do, be it extraordinarily impressive or terrible, will change that fact. The problem is who you are. As such, it is different from guilt, which allows you to recognize you have done something wrong and pushes you to make amends. With shame, there is nothing you...

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Low Self Esteem

January 26, 2012
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Low self esteem

My low self esteem used to torture me, particularly at work. One day, I realized I had no possibility of getting it right: if I did a lousy or an average job, I was hearing “I can’t believe how lazy and incompetent you are”. If I did a great job, I was hearing “who do you think you are? You’re only trying to get noticed”. I realized I had two options: lying on the ground and getting fed through a straw, or addressing the issue of my abysmal self esteem. I did address it and it improved dramatically over...

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