I used to think that everybody was finding me ridiculous. Innapropriate, incompetent, insecure,stupid, immature, yada yada yada. So everybody thought these terrible things about me. And when folks happened to give me contrary evidence, some positive feedback, say, or appreciation of some kind, I just thought they did not see the real me. Because if they had seen the real me, they would find me ridiculous etc. I managed to fool them (just so that I could add dishonest to my list). There is an obvious problem with this mindset: what I thought about what other people thought was irrefutable. If someone sent...