Posts Tagged ‘ Shame ’

Healing the shame that binds you

January 28, 2012
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Healing the shame that binds you

Healing the Shame that Binds You, from John Bradshaw, is considered a recovery classic with good reason. It’s a powerful book, one that can really help you in your journey towards emotional health. Unhealthy shame, as Bradshaw defines it, is basically thinking you are flawed and defective as a human being. Nothing you can do, be it extraordinarily impressive or terrible, will change that fact. The problem is who you are. As such, it is different from guilt, which allows you to recognize you have done something wrong and pushes you to make amends. With shame, there is nothing you...

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Emotions are your best friends

January 19, 2012
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Japonais

For a long time, I could not understand why I should be more connected to my emotions. I really had too much of these already. My emotions were mistreating me. Emotions were only causing problems in my life. I missed trains and planes because of panic. Often in relationships I was awkward to the point of looking silly, because I was overcome by anxiety. My loving feelings were invariably taking me to someone who would either ignore me or treat me badly (I could then wallow in useless despair). I was easily feeling ridiculous or stupid, overwhelmed by shame. My emotions we so...

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Shame is your enemy

January 5, 2012
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depression teen girl cried

I don’t remember when I first read “shame based personnality”, but I recognized it instantly: hell, it was me. Shame was my constant companion. I was always feeling it, about one thing or the other. Being late brought shame. Being early triggered shame as well. Doing something badly brought shame (you cannot get anything right type of shame), doing it well brought shame (who do you think your are type of shame). Wanting attention brought shame, but acting withdrawn as well. My desires and wants were shameful by definition. Even falling in love triggered shame. Oh God it was...

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